I'll let you be the judge. But...be kind. I was young.
"Jay, that looks like it hurts. Maybe I'd better not kiss you."
"Oh that? That's nothing? Just a little cut. You can kiss me."
So I did, and did and did and did and did.
That's what he said to me. And that's what I believed.
For years after that.
Until I got one of those little "cuts" myself.
*****
Now, you be the judge.
Stupid? Naive? Or a bloody ho?
156 comments:
I am sorry it happened to you. people lie about it and hide the truth, but it happens a lot, you are not the only victim.
Secretia
Ha! Totally naive!! Most definitely - BTW, LOVE the pic!!!
There's nothing wrong with a little naivety. I might be a little naive myself!
Oh and that sucks, I'm sorry. I've been in a man-hating mood lately, and this is just confirming my suspicions.
Oh yes, naive. But naive in an "i love him and can't get enough of him and trust" him sort-of way. Can't fault you for that. I'm sorry it happened!
ah, live and learn is what I always say.
Ok. Not slutty at all. Girlishly naive. As a woman I can say I have been there.
same thing happened to me. Only he didn't tell me about the little "cuts" on the inside of his mouth!
Young and naive. Definitely not stupid and definitely not a ho!!!
I couldn't see the pic on the small screen!
Sweetly naive honey...and you could NEVER be a bloody ho.
-->You're clearly a glass half full type of person.
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Whoops! I wish you would have saved your old clothes for me to dress up in. That dress is sweeeeeet.
I am going to go with naive. You didn't know any better! What a jerk.
Naive and obviously wanted to believe in him
I agree with Laura~ Naive and you wanted to believe in him. Love the pic!
I would say naive because you probably had no idea about things like that. But after you became aware and if you did it again, then stupid. and again and again and again, then maybe a bloody ho. LOL
Yes, naive. Definitely. I doubt I would've known any different either.
A little naive...but were'nt we all..I mean its not something that our Moms used to sit down and explain...LoL..!
Ok, I'm going with the naive consensus...but I would have totally done the same thing!
Total whore. For reals. I would so never ever do likewise. Ever.
Except I totally think I did.
NOT stupid, NOT whorish; maybe naive. It's hard to think the worst of someone we like/love; we want to believe them. Some people take advantage of that...
Naive, for sure. Stupid? No way.
Naive for sure. We all have those times. Stupid..never
We all do the naive thing at least once in life!
No need to beat ourselves up for it!
But that was sooooo evile of him lying to you that way.
Naive of course! When we are young we usually haven't learned enough to know there can be a difference between loved one and trustworthy one.
What if I kissed you? Would you feel better then??
I have some VA VA VOOOOOOM lips.
PUCKER UP
Awa!!! That jerk!!!
It was a growing up lesson. You were just young. Not stupid, not a ho... no way, no how!!
Awww I LOVE the picture! :) Too sweet.. yep it has been confirmed... U a HO! brhahahaha
Gurlllll you don't even want me to go there .... and they lie..... they do... LOL
Have a great week chica!
But you want to be naive when you are young. Otherwise, and in all seriousness, being young wouldn't be all it's cracked up to be.
When you know better, you do better:-)
Oh dear. I'm sticking with the crowd and saying naive. You were young. I wouldn't want to say some of the bonehead things that I believed (or wanted to believe) when I was young.
The picture is priceless!
Have a great week!
:-)
Traci
Naive. I would have done the same thing. Sorry!
those cuts are part of life, it seems...
Definitely naive. I believed many of the wrong things in my past too. I try to never beat myself up over any of it.
Naive and young. That is the story I stick with for myself...it will work for you as well.
Definitely naive. We've all been there! ;)
I say hopeful and trusting not necessarily naive. I think we know deep down but we HOPE we are wrong..
Someone said "what a jerk"...I want to second that...and more!!!
You, on the other hand? Pure innocence and trust...don't ever tell me there's something wrong with that...that only wisdom that accrues with age can look back on...we all have things we can't believe we've done and would never do again...unless we were that young again...
Glad you're moving forward.
I'm going w/ naive. Unless you know what those "cuts" are...what a jerk, then there was no way for you to know. Lesson learned, the hard way.
i say naive all the way.. how were you to know!
Maybe he didn't know either? Hey, simplex 1 is better than simplex 2.
Yah it was naive, but no worries... we HAVE all been there!
I vote for naive, because if you're stupid then so am I. The same thing happened to me. UGH!
What makes me so mad is that it is SO EASY not to pass around! Just no kissing when you have a "cut!" It's that easy!
Stupid boys.
Yikes!!!
Hmmm...I got with....stupid. Hahah, just kidding. I probably would've done the same thing.
Oooops!!
I wouldn't have known either. So we'll stick with naive. I hope HE was naive too. Because if he KNEW...well, then... you know.. or ELSE!
I say trusting, :)
Naive...that's the story and stick with it kid! With a body bursting with young lust. That boy was a big jerk and a total liar!
Naive, and I hope he was too. Otherwise that's just totally lame and cruel. Been there, babes.
Naive, definitely not stupid.
Naive. Can you believe all the crap that we parents have to tell our kids about? No more just the "birds and the bees" conversation. No, we have to have THAT conversation and tell them about everything else they can potentially get and catch from kissing and other kissing related things. Not fun. And then, they have to believe that not everyone is honest and not to trust people ...
Naive, young, in love, and trusting. We have all been there. What a toad.
Don't forget about my giveaway. :-)
Sissy
Young, naive, in love...or maybe horny, but we all make those mistakes....it'd be nice if we could trust people, but we can't. And who knows, maybe he didn't have any idea, either.
Im gonna go with naive!
Who are we kidding, we are all naive at some point of another. ;D
Just don't kiss those nether regions while you have one of those "cuts" if ya know what I mean. ;D
Lol!
The times were so different...
And it's a shame.
You forgot the "Just a hormonal teenager." option.
We all did dumb things at a certain age - and then spend years trying to make sure our kids didn't.
I would say naive. I know because one time a dude asked me if I wanted to see his bedroom. I said, yeah sure, thinking he really was going to show me his bedroom. There are so many dishonorable assholes out there.
Sometimes we are all naive at times...I should know!
I will just never learn NOT to be so trusting of people!
Hugs!
We were young. What do we know at that age. With experience comes wisdom.
Naive... but so was I. Then again, aren't we all really?
Want me to beat him up for you??
Okay....I must be the only person, but I totally don't get it?????
Like, he literally had cuts, or does that supposed to mean something else??
LOL..I'm totally being serious!!!
Yes, young and naive.I was I , too.
Betty xx
It's a shame that we can't trust people anymore. So sorry.
I'm with Alicia. I'm totally clueless here!
Fill me in please? please? please?
I'd go with you being naive and him being the ho. ;) Stinks either way, though.
Naivete + young love = ouch (in more ways than one).
xoxo
Naive. Ahh, to be young again... thank god that won't happen.
Ugh! Naive, that's what being young does to you.
I'm sorry. :(
Okay, I think I am naive because I'm not sure what the cuts are? Is it code? I had an idea but I have no clue.
Whatever cuts means I am sorry--men can be such asshats.
xo
I think being naive is a trait of being young. And we've all been there once. Not now cause like I'm thirty freakin' four and very far from young but once upon a time.
Long ago it's all naive, who knew then. Sorry!
Naive. Definitely. But that ass was straight up STUPID. Jerk...
What a jerk! You were naive, not stupid. Be sure to educate your kiddos so it doesn't happen to them!
Hugs!
Bummer. I would say naive! Young love.
argh, I'm helping one of my friend's through a similar situation right now. It sucks, but I'd say you both were naive and blinded by your emotions.
Oh lord, we've all been naive at some point in our lives (well, most of us at least). You definitely weren't stupid though in my opinion! :)
Niave and wanting to believe the best in somebody else- that they would not intentionally do that to you. Jerk.
what a tool bag! LoL... Hes a jerk, you just did not know better...
As for the picture... Now you tease us?! LOL... Very small...
But yep... I see what you are doing to us! :)
I still love you, no matter where you have "cuts".
Yeah it's too bad our moms never talked to us about stuff like that. And if they did it was probably waaaay too late.
I only had a mom for a few years so I too learned things the hard way lots of times.
Let's just not make the same mistakes with our kiddies. It's a LOT more dangerous out there nowadays.
I too get boo boo's on my mouth at times. Usually when I am stressed.
Who knows from when and where they came.
Lord knows I NEVER kissed anyone when I was young ....hahahaha
Smooches to you.
Young and in love. Not stupid. Been there, done that!
Naive? I guess I am too cause I have no idea what your are talking about.
I'd say naive. Lesson learned even if the hard way
Naive. And I mean that in the best possible way ;)
BTW, boys are almost always dirty rotten liars. I'm starting to tell my 9 y/o daughter this now, so jr high and high school will be easier on both of us.
Am I being naive?
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oh the joys and pains of young love! haha
Ah youth, young trusting and very naive. Here I thought I was the only young green chick in the coop! Live and learn baby. I'm so sorry this happen to you.
Have a good day filled with sweet blessings!!!
Totally naive!! Not stupid at all. I love your picture. Senior Prom?
Totally not stupid! I would have believed him too.
I am really not sure what to saw.. I think you were young and naive. But you are such a wonderful woman.. So I guess we all learn when we kiss a bad frog...
Hahaha! This seems like a situation where your naivete worked in your favor!
I'm pretty sure young and in love usually equals slightly stupid.
It happends to the best of us.
Sorry about it (stupid boy).
It's amazing as young girls what we fall for...I say just naive. Little cut...that sucks!
All young girls are naive...you just had worse consequences! So sorry...
Just naive.....he would have convinced me too!
Pretty harsh lesson to learn how dishonest people are. That was back then, and hopefully in today's world no one would believe it without a blood test!
Hah, you were young. Young is naivete, right? At least that is what I always tell my kids when they question my youth.
Naive. Maybe he didn't know what it really was either? You could have just as easily shared a sip of a friend's soda and BAM so cut yourself some slack. Happens to the best.
P.S. Could have been a 'peach' kiss or an 'alfalfa' kiss and you'd still have the problem. ;-)
Young! Oh and can i have my dress back?
oh god. this kind of stuff is such a pain. and i hope he wasn't straight up lying to you. yes, i can be naive, too. :[ and the thought of finding a new sexual partner and having these kinds of talks/asking for proof, is pretty much horrifying. i am not up for it. bleh.
Just naive, Blueviolet. It happens to the best of us!
Um...naive...? I guess...? Cuz, srsly, I don't know what it was...herpes? I'm naive too.
The virus that provides us with cold sores lives dormant in the nerves of the vast majority of people's faces. True.
It gets there because some well-meaning person who has it kisses us. Could be your grandmother, could be your boyfriend.
Decades may go by and then something will trigger it out of dormancy: stress, extreme cold and wind, too much sun, foods with arginine in them, etc.
Some people have the virus stay dormant their entire lives. They're lucky.
What I can tell you is that post-menopausal years will diminish the number of occurrences.
I wouldn't have had a clue!
Three things...
1. I have to go with young and niave.
2. He's still alive?
3. If you decide to become a bloody ho, give me a call.
you were young, you were in love, and things like any std's werent discussed back then, i am assuming it is a std but to be honest i just dont know what you ended up having?
It's hard to believe you were a ho in that dress! So I am going to go with naive.
ick. You didn't know any different.
I don't know that I would know what to look for... but I am married, so I guess/hope it doesn't matter! :)
Naive, yes. I would have done the same thing years ago. There are not enough names in the book to lay on him for taking advantage of you. GRR.
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Let's say that he was stupid, and conniving, and a jerk, and...
Yep, naive. I'da done the same.
Pretty sure my friend had that dress... :-)
***Ally
We always want to believe them.
aww... i think everyone has a "i was young and naive" story. it goes with the territory.
Naive. I'm completely naive, in some situations, still. Oh well.
You were LIED to...that doesn't make you naive!! :(
Grrrr. So much I could say here, but not gonna hate.
*focus back on you*
You're better off without him, and I'd go with trusting and loving and honoring [your vows]. That might be naive, but it's still honorable.
Oh, hell, a mistake made by people much more worldly then you were then. I read recently that by the age of 50, 80-90% percent of the population carries that virus, even if they don't know it. So at least your.re in good company. (Although he should NOT have lied')
Everyone starts out naive at some point. There's no shame in that. There's shame in lying. But YOU didn't lie.
Since everyone is going with naive, I'll just say ho to shake things up a bit. Just kidding. You were young and in luuurrrvvee.
None of the above in my opinion!
Naive, and having believed many a liar myself over the years, I feel for you.
Young and trusting. Oh Boy, have we all made some "young and trusting" mistakes.
bloody ho - for shizzle - kidding!! I was extremely naive back then too and probably would have fallen for the same line although I'm part hypochondriac so maybe not...
Stupid?? Absolutely not!
Love is supposed to mean trust, and vice versa. Doesn't always work out that way. I'm going with naive, and no way a hoe.
Welcome to the BTDT, club. ;)
I'm going with naive!
so? I think the "real" question here is: Jay...is he your husband?
Well if he was cute maybe you were horny baby?! We've all done what we chalk up now as stupid...but then....just naive. Miss you lover.
Sometimes being young clouds our judgement. Sorry girlie men can be pigs but also may be young and not know either?
HUGS sweetie!
Um...I obvi can't judge you because I have no idea what you're talking about. So, if you're naive (or were) then I still am. At 32 years old. Oh holy hell. Awesome. But that is a super fantastic picture and sort of makes me wish those dresses would make a massive comeback.
Not a ho, gee, isn't this how we learn stuff?
First of all...wow for your to share!! I think Cold Sores are so prevelant that it's not as big a deal as it was years ago. Maybe I'm wrong. Anyhow, when you love someone, and you're that young, what do you do? How would you know? Live & learn although the lessons could be hard.
~Mimi @ Woven by Words
Yikes! A little naive, but I was back then too.
I had to read this twice because I am so naive I didn't get it. I'm sorry that sucks. But you were not a ho. Or maybe you were, but not because of that.
Just a wee bit naive, but who hasn;t been there?! :)
Have to say naive.
Naive. By the way, I am so over the top about that. I have never had a cold sore, and when I see someone with one, especially another kid playing with mine, I freak. Not openly, but inwardly. I absolutely make a point to be certain no touching the lips to hands to lips occurs. Fortunately, my 3 year old has zero interest in locking lips yet!
Trusting. Stupid, no. Wiser now, yes.
I'm going with a mixture of naive and bloody ho. If you weren't such a bloody ho you would have had time to realize he was feeding you a line of crap. But weren't we all a little bit of both?
Naive for sure. It's a different world today but I am sure there are still allot of naive girls out there.
I think you're a combination of all three.. why stick with just one label ;)
Sex ed is supposed to cover that.
Naive for sure! Was he just as naive or did he just not care? I am sorry to hear that happened to you!
Apparently I'm naive too, I'm not really sure what you're talking about.
Youth and love. A dangerous combination.
Well, I don't exactly know what you mean by "cuts." But I do know that love is a funny thing, and I would have done the same.
Not knowing is definitely not stupid :)
Boo to that. It's not stupid and maybe a bit naive but mostly in love. And love does strange things to us.
You trusted someone you loved. Nothing stupid about that. :-)
You,Naive! Boy, Stupid! Girl who he got it from, bloody ho! ;)
Trusting. Very trusting. We've all been there. You just got the short end of the stick on that one.
Oh honey, you were neither of those things....you were in love.
He, on the other hand, might not have been thinking straight when he told you it was only a cut. Maybe your kissing skills were THAT good.
xoxo
i didn't figure out how evil boys can be until much later in life, so i wouldn't say stupid. boys are stupid. :)
Oh, my friend, you were young, in love, trusting, and defintely naive! There is no way you were stupid or a Ho.
He is the idiot who deserves to be smacked, flogged, beat-up, hung upside down and have his you-know-what cut off!
I'm so sorry you have to go through all this, please know that you have friends that care for you.
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